Have you noticed how kids change so dramatically when they enter their teens? Some might call it hormones, but I see it more as aspects of our Inner Dynamic stepping forward to get some attention at that time.
An Astrology Chart gives you a very clear picture of these aspects. As a whole they’re called the Transpersonal Planets- Uranus, Neptune and Pluto. And each seems to impact kids in its own profound and discomforting way during these formative years.
There’s Uranus- I call him the Rebel. He’s the part of the sub-personality that is always pushing the boundaries, always wanting to think outside the box. He wants to do things his own way.
Sound familiar? Most kids start to display these rebellious traits in their teen years. Kids who were perfect little angels suddenly become difficult and contrary once they enter those in-between years.
Then there’s Neptune- I call her the Seer. She’s the part of the sub-personality that wants to drift away and become one with the Universe. But she also has a tendency toward deception, drugs and alcohol or any other method of escape from the harshness of reality.
It’s no surprise that issues with drugs and alcohol are so prominent in the teen years. This girl has to find some way of making herself heard!
And the last of the Big Three is Pluto. I call him The Beast. I imagined the Wookie in Star Wars when I labelled him this. This guy has all the intensity and power of our animal selves. He’s very ‘Basic’ too, thinking of very little else but the body’s needs- like sex- obsessing over it, in fact. He’s territorial and moody too.
Do you recognise that guy in your teenager? If not, you haven’t looked under your kid’s bed recently and found their stash of Porn – visual (Playboy for guys) or verbal (erotic novels for girls).
No surprises that Romeo and Juliet were teenagers in the grip of The Beast! That kind of intensity is exhausting for the rest of us.
What can you do about these aspects of self that start making themselves known in these years? Is there anything to be done but batten down the hatches and riding it out?
Yes there is. Getting your kids to ‘play’ with these sub-personalities, getting familiar with their needs and drives, makes it easier for them to maintain perspective and control. Finding healthy outlets for these energies is much better than trying to push them down.
I find imagination is a very powerful tool to draw on when the Big Three are in evidence. Getting kids to take their inner characters on a Quest can be fun and enlightening.
And kids have a natural affinity with Astrology and can readily recognise these dynamics inside themselves where they might scoff at ‘shrinks’ and counsellors’ analyses of them.
But a word of warning. If you get your kid’s chart done, don’t hand it to them and say- ‘See there – I always tell you you’re untidy and it says it right there!’
Let them go on a voyage of discover for themselves without you as their guide. They have to start some time, and Astrology is a relatively safe form of self-discovery compared to other methods kids employ during these teen years.